Take a minute and name all the things that you love.
It’s okay if you take more than a minute to name everything, just make sure you don’t miss anything.
How long did you take to name yourself?
Just because you are full of flaws or you think every other people is catching all the lucky breaks while you are screwing everything up does not make you unlovable.
Just because you are fat or you are dark does not make you loathsome.
Just because everyone else is happy and successful or everyone else is getting dates and finding true love doesn’t make you unworthy.
I have seen people who change themselves just to please others or they will do things just to impress others and there are people who do things that they hate but they will do it anyway just to make someone like them. Some people live with a constant fear of ‘what others will think of me if I do this or that’ and they will end up doing nothing. They are just whores, they are selling different parts of their body. They are selling their soul instead of skin, that’s all.
We are all so used to focus on how other people make us feel that it is easy to forget that we don’t always need external influences to love ourselves and be happy. Being in touch with your own emotions and feeling in control of your goals really makes life so much better. We all need to remember to take the time to connect with ourselves no matter how busy we are or how crazy life gets.
“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself, is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”
Unfortunately, we don’t love ourselves until we lose weight, or get a job, or find true love or whatever. We often put conditions on our love. We have to change. We can love ourselves as we are right now. We should love ourselves unconditionally, because it gives you the strength and courage to try new things and to go after your dreams i.e., you have insurance – you know that no matter what the outcome, you will still love and accept yourself regardless. Loving yourself unconditionally is like having your own back, no one can hurt you except yourself and your self-worth is not dependent on your success and that will drive you to try more because you’ve got nothing to lose, which in turn, leads to greater success.
It’s okay if people hate you for who you are or how you are. There will still be people who will hate you for losing weight and there will be people who will be jealous of your career and personal life. No matter how good you are, someone is always going to be against you, just make sure it’s not you. “It’s better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” You can’t make everyone happy, you are not chocolate. Be yourself. People do not have to like you and you don’t have to care.
And in the process of loving yourself unconditionally, it is possible that you may find your true love or the person who loves you may stop loving you saying that you are not giving importance to him/her, you may end in a job that you are so passionate about or the company that hired you may fire you because you are not devoting yourself for its progress, you may find inner peace and enjoy the life that you got or the looks of you that brought you so much attention and praise may fade. The former things are good but you will struggle upon with the latter things. But it gives you what you really need in your life. That lover, he/she may leave you but there will eventually be another who will see eye to eye with you and love you for what you are. That company, they may fire you but you will eventually find many opportunities to showcase your skills which will lead you to your dream job. Your looks, that may fade but there are other ways in which you can feel important and appreciated.
You don’t need your lover. You need to be loved.
You don’t need your job. You need to feel secure and earn money.
You don’t need to be beautiful. You need to feel appreciated.
What you need is YOU!
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