Time and again whenever we feel down, this particular thought pops in our mind “Why me?”. But, when something extremely successful happens we usually don’t get those thoughts. After tasting great success, have you ever thought “why me?”. Most of us would not have thought so. So what drives our emotions? What drives us? What is that force that drives us every second we live on this planet?
Few may say, it’s God. Few may say, things just happen. Well… perspective changes from one person to other. Few say curiosity is the driving force, the fear of evil is the driving force, fame and passion are the driving force, money is the driving force, culture and diversity are the driving force, and it goes on… Healthy debates take place on this very topic every day. There’s something more to life than to eat, drink, be merry and die.
So I take a drug for my cold. Sit on the top floor of a building and watch the busy roads. I get all gloomy in a while and start thinking weird things. The biggest question that pops first in my mind is “Why are we born? why a human being need to go through so much of pain, happiness, tears and joy before he/she rests in peace?” I don’t know the answer. So I skip to the next question. “The things happening around us, are they all linked together like a chain?” In chaos theory, The butterfly effect states;
The butterfly effect is the sensitive dependence on initial conditions in which a small change in one state of a deterministic nonlinear system can result in large differences in a later state.
Woah! It sounds too technical for me. I skip this question too. Next question that comes on my mind “Can I be happy always?”. For this question, I get a decent answer from my heart. No person in this world can be happy always. No person can always be sad and depressed. It all depends on how fast you recover and get back on your track. My intoxicated mind gives an applause and I get a cup of coffee… I activate my brain and start thinking fresh.
I am the driving force of myself and the people around me. I can lighten up the people around me. Of course, the butterfly effect sounds convincing. The behavior and emotions of us have a direct or indirect effect on everyone around us.
Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.
We are the driving force of ourselves. Life starts when we detach from the hold of our parents and supporters. We start this journey by setting goals. In an urge to achieve these goals, we totally forget our true self. Suddenly we feel “Who am I and what I am doing with this life?”. When we deliberately fail, we think “Why me!?” When we succeed, we forget to ask the questions. A person who fails, again and again, is sick of his life. Whereas, a person who always succeeds ( so rare ) wants more and more.
We need a balance between our emotions. Too much of happiness or too much of sadness is hazardous. An emotionally balanced person stays calm (along with a smile) when he is happy and stays calmer when he is sad. One can build the road map of his/her life by learning from mistakes. Life can’t be without sadness and happiness. It’s like two sides of a coin. Wise men can judge and decide which face arrives when the coin is flipped.
It all depends on who you are. You are born for a reason. You live for a reason. You are the ultimate driving force of your life.
P.S – I have talked about many things in this post. There may be inconsistencies in this write-up as I wrote it in an unstable state. But each paragraph will surely communicate something 🙂
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