There is an insidious quirk to your brain that, if you let it, can drive you insane. Tell me if this sounds familiar to you:
You get anxious about confronting somebody in your life. That anxiety cripples you and you start wondering why you’re so anxious. Now you’re becoming anxious about being anxious. Oh no! Doubly anxious! Now you’re anxious about your anxiety, which is causing more anxiety.
There was a man who was filthy rich, he made a lot of money. He saw the world as a series of value propositions. Everything from what to wear, to which restaurant to eat for dinner, to why certain people liked him or not.
If someone was rude to him it was because they were jealous or felt threatened by his power or success. If someone was kind to him it was because they admired his power and success. He measured himself through the money he owned and naturally he had a metric to measure the world and people around him i.e., Money.
Think of something in your life that you’ve wanted to accomplish but haven’t. Something deep down. Whether it’s because you haven’t gotten around to it, are too timid to go for it, or you took a shot and failed deliberately. Conjure up in your mind that big failure of your life. Perhaps you’re in the middle of it now.
Five hundred years ago cartographers believed California was an island. Doctors believed that slicing your arm open and bleeding everywhere could cure disease. Scientists believed the fire was made out of something called phlogiston. Astronomers believed the sun revolved around the earth. And women believed rubbing dog urine on their face had anti-aging benefits.
Just when you were lying down on the roof, looking at the stars and wondering why there are some stars that shine so bright while others don’t? you will get a text from your ex saying that he/she wants to get back into your life to make things worse again or the university examination results are out and you have failed in few subjects or your boss will ask you to come to the office immediately to finish a ‘7 day’ project in a ‘single night’ which will ruin your mind and make your night miserable.
Take a minute and name all the things that you love.
It’s okay if you take more than a minute to name everything, just make sure you don’t miss anything.
How long did you take to name yourself?
If you have to try to be cool, you will never be cool. If you have to try to be happy, then you will never be happy. Maybe the problem these days is people are just trying too hard.
Happiness, like other emotions, is not something you obtain, but rather something you inhabit. When you are angry and beat someone up, you are not self-conscious about your state of anger. You are not thinking to yourself, “Am I finally angry? Am I doing this right?” No, you’re out for blood. You inhabit and live the anger. You are the anger. And then it’s gone.