“Our neighbor’s son secured an A and you’ve got just a D.
Look how well she dresses. Learn from her. (with a jab on the shoulder)
Your uncle’s daughter has topped her semester exams but you’re still lagging with 4 arrears.
He’s making 7 Lakhs per annum but you’re making a mere 4.5. When will your salary increase?
Fine arts is not going to help you in your life, get into an IT firm like your friend.”
We are accustomed to these type of comparisons in our life. If you are from a middle-class Indian family, the peer pressure from your family members and relatives will make you go nuts. When our parents sign our report cards, when our board exam results crash the servers (and ourselves), when we get into college, when we get a job offer after going through serious pains, we get subjected to silly comparisons in all the phases of our life. The worst part is when you get compared to a total stranger and the elders acknowledge his/her “words of wisdom.”
We wonder why on earth we studied engineering. There are people in their early 30’s who *still* confess that “My job and my degree(s) are not related in any way”.
I hated the 4 years of my engineering life. With high dreams and passion, stepping into the college with a hope as tiny as a speck of dust. A hope, that I’ll be able to give life to my dreams. My ears ringed with these two phrases “You are going to waste your life”, “You won’t get placed”. All I could react was: F-U.
According to me, I had 4 years of time exclusively for developing and gaining expertise in my area of interests.
Just when you were lying down on the roof, looking at the stars and wondering why there are some stars that shine so bright while others don’t? you will get a text from your ex saying that he/she wants to get back into your life to make things worse again or the university examination results are out and you have failed in few subjects or your boss will ask you to come to the office immediately to finish a ‘7 day’ project in a ‘single night’ which will ruin your mind and make your night miserable.
“Open your eyes, look within.
Are you satisfied with the life you are living?”
– Bob Marley
There are two major types of humans. One of them frequently says, “From here on, I’m going to live my life”. Other says “I’m just surviving my life” (with a sigh). What’s the big difference? We all live through this game of life. But, what’s the margin that decides whether we are living our surviving?
Maybe, she was innocent when she was used as an instrument by men to fulfill their sexual needs.
Maybe, she stayed silent and denied to inform her parents.
In our day to day lives, we meet few people from whose faces we can determine their pains, their dreams and their longing for a happy life. This was one among them…
“What’s your passion? What do you want to achieve?” I asked her. “My passion is dead. It’s buried” she replied with eyes full of tears.
There is a time during which we used to ask our parents, dad what have I to fill in the caste section? or mom what is this caste section with series of check boxes? What have I to tick? As a school kid, I and my friends used to wonder what’s all this caste thing about. Few used to say,
“I think life is always dangerous. Some people get afraid of it. Some people don’t go forward. But some people, if they want to achieve their goal, they have to go. They have to move… We have seen the barbaric situation of the 21st century in Swat. So why should I be afraid now?” said an 18-year-old girl from Pakistan, Malala Yousafzai.
Today anybody in this world can access all your information or at least, get to know about you within a series of clicks.
Bangkok, Thailand!! That’s what this post is all about!
It was 26th December 2014. Myself and two of my buddies were all set to start our journey to Bangkok. We were to attend an International Conference. Note that the conference was scheduled on 28th of December. This was going to be my second trip to a foreign destination.